dupa un week-end teribil (placa, gashca, vin fiert pe partie, sauna, super cabana, petrecere pana in zori, iar placa, iar vin fiert...) luni dis de dimineata m-a izbit din senin, cum ma duceam agale spre scoala, urmatoarea constatare: eu n-am ramas prietena cu nici unul dintre "ecsi". nada. nicht. zirou.
si-atunci am zis sa o iau metodic, de la baza problemei: ce inseamna "a ramane prieten"?
sa incepem cu componenta "prieten"... prieten e cel care te trezeste la 1 dimineata ca a fost cutremur si s-a gandit ca s-ar putea sa te fi speriat ca stie ca ti-e foarte frica de cutremur. iti spune in fata ca esti prost cand plangi din prostii si plange cu tine cand te doare. te suna iar la 1 dimineata sa-ti zica "cearta-ma, am facut o tampenie" cand i-au luat carnetul, cand s-a imbatat sau cand si-a uitat cheile la cine nu trebuia. ii stie pe maica-ta si frate-tau si-ti spune sa ai mai multa rabdare cu ei, ca sunt ai tai. te suna sa te verifice daca ai mancat si renunta sa mearga la baschet doar pentru ca tu vrei sa vorbesti. si o sa-ti scoata ochii 3 zile ca a renuntat la baschet pentru prostiile din capul tau, dar o va face si data viitoare. e mandru de tine dar face un misto crunt sa nu ti-o iei in cap. stie ce simti si nu se sfieste sa-ti spuna ce simte.
componenta numero due, "a ramane": (aici e mai simplu) presupune conservarea unei stari care exista deja. ca sa ramaneti prieteni trebuie sa fi fost prieteni. imi pare rau ca distrug mitul a milioane de pagini de literatura glossy de mare angajament feminim, stiu ca doare, dar adevarul e ca nu suntem prieteni cu iubitii nostri. ca altfel s-ar numi prietenie si nu iubire. fluturii din stomac (sau din cap, dupa caz), zvacnetul din piept cand ii auzi vocea, starea de ameteala de te ia cand pune mana pe tine nu sunt simptome de prieteneala. nici macar faptul ca-l suni de 15 ori pe zi "doar ca sa vezi ce face", nici discutiile lungi despre toate si nimic, nici ingaduinta sau nevoia de a asculta si spune tot ce stii sau nu stii despre tine si celalalt nu sunt semnele unei frumoase prietenii. sunt semne ca-l iubesti pe celalalt. si-l vrei in viata ta. sau, si mai bine, il vrei centrul vietii tale.
acum ca ne-am clarificat, sa aplicam grila de mai sus. daca a fost o aventura de o noapte/saptamana/luna nu ajungi sa fii prieten, fiind preocupat mai mult de senzatii si mai putin de discutii. deci nu stii mai nimic despre persoana respectiva. deci n-ai cum sa ajungi sa fii prieten. raman indiferenta, jena, mahmureala, casuta bifata, trofeul, d-astea. daca a fost o relatie dintr-acelea despre care "chiar credem ca e ultima" despartirea e dureroasa, maloasa, musteste de reprosuri, introspectii, regrete. esti dezamagit. da, ati fost prieteni si asta face lucrurile sa doara si mai tare. dar prietenia se descalifica din momentul in care dezamageste; un prieten nu poate sa dezamageasca, prin definitie.
deci qed. it's not me, it's pure logic. n-are cum. nada. nicht. zirou.
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... pe care o sa o pun in rama si o sa o arat de fiecare data cand o sa aud o anume intrebare...
Oricum, asa ucis cum sunt, am fost razbunat :)
Conform demonstratiei tale ai nevoie si de iubiti si de prieteni. Pentru moment ok. Intrebarea e, la un moment dat, nu vei vrea un prieten care sa fie si iubit? sau invers? Sau ai ajuns si tu la concluzia mea cu nevoile multiple, oamenii multiplii? Tocmai incep sa ma indoiesc un pic de ea.
oamenii sunt liniari dpdv coordonate. si irepetabili.
Oamenii sunt diferiti, foarte diferiti si nu exista 2 oameni compatibili perfect sau care sa raspunda tuturor nevoilor reciproce. Unii sunt doar prieteni, unii sunt doar iubiti. Si detaliind mai mult sunt mai multi oameni care raspund mai multor nevoi (nevoi multiple). Nu?
pai asta am zis si eu. dar in cuvinte mai putine.
Si atunci totul devine o chestie de organizare? Cum sa organizezi nevoile si cei care raspund la ele? Cum faci switch? N-ai vrea un multifunctional?
Dar un ex cu care te mai vezi din cind in cind si cu care nu iti refuzi citeo partida zdravana de sex cum se numeste? parerea ta...
sau disperare
ha! la word verif mi s-a cerut sa scriu "stomach".
"pierderea temporara a facultatilor mintale
sau disperare" nu is altceva decat niste scuze. de cate ori se intimpla cu un ex., e o chestie asumata si, uneori, chiar foarte bine pusa la punct.
este: prietenul iti rezolva temerile iar iubitul rezolva poftele?
eu nu te scot din blogroll. ca sa stii.
Ca de obicei extrem de haioasa, acida si tot ce mi-a placut mie pe blogul asta.
Ai dreptate, cu referinta la ultimele 2 articole ( la care n-am acces sa comentez): nici pe departe nu le stii pe toate, si-mi pare rau ca gasesti satisfactii spirituale in inginerii financiare. Si daca nu gasesti decat de cele lumesti, materiale, atunci nu te oftica de banii pierduti, ca sunt doar bani...
Ca pan la urma tot ai facut una bucata sauna, cu sau fara inginerii.
"sperantele gheboase" hai ca ma lovisi, profondamente...
"pentru toate lectiile primite, oricat de dureroase, nedrepte sau inegale" cata sinceritate, nu ma asteptam, sincer.
Chiar incepusem sa cred ca esti buricu lu pamantu'
PS Lucrezi la o asa-zisa multi nationala: esti fericita sau doar realizata profesional...si oarecum material.
Mii de scuze daca am fost un pic mitocan comentaiul asta...sterge-l si tu, ca le ai p-astea.
Nu pot sa iti spun sa nu inchizi blogul, e decizia ta, insa mi-ar lipsi mult posturile tale (in care de multe ori ma regasesc).
Sunt eminamente surprins, dar decizia de a-l inchide este inteleapta doar din punctul tau de vedere.
Vizitatorii fideli ai blogului iti vor simti lipsa si umorul extra fin.
LA MULTI ANI!
PS Eram si eu fidel candva, da ma dadusi afara, nu in suturi, ci in mod elegant. Merci pt tot, merci pentru ca mi-ai oferit posibilitatea, prin intermediul acestui blog, de a cunoaste o persoana extrem de inteligenta si caustica, de la care se pare ca am invatat foarte multe, desi sunt cam boshorog, si la varsta mea e greu sa recunoasti ca mai ai inca de-nvatat.
Poate ca ai invatat si tu cate ceva din postarile mele...
PPS Multumesc si tie si lui Novac ca m-ati ejectat de pe blog la timp, ca riscam sa stric atmosfera boema de pe dansul, si exista riscul c (scuzati cacofonia)conversatia sa degenereze in ceva ieftin.
Hai sa traiti bine si la multi ani!
Te rog eu frumos, am si eu putine bucurii pe lumea asta. Nu inchide blogul. Te rog eu frumos frumos frumos de tot. Plizzzzz. :(
Daca tot te hotarasi sa termini definitiv si parca irevocabil cu blogul macar lasa-l asa cum e, ca mai am cate ceva de citit (nu cred ca am parcurs 25 procente din dansul)
Nu vezi ca toata lumea plange pe-aici de dorul tau!? (talentului tau de a te exprima in scris!?)
PS Pentru mine ramai acelasi john doe misterios, extrem de fascinant la inceput, ceva mai previzibil pe parcurs, si un om ca toti oamenii in the end of the story.
PPS Si daca tot te curatasi la bursa, incearca pariuri live: vezi ca CFR va avea un retur fantastic, pariaza pe ei si refa-ti macar moralul, poate si bugetul.
please come back. pretty please.
or at least email me some texts. i neeeed you.
your biggest and slimmest fan, andreea.
am descoperit si eu blogul. Cand l-ai inchis. Era scris frumos. Ai reusit sa ma intristezi, desi nu stiu de ce. Poate ca imi plac mie asa, Happy Endings [Pulp, His'n'Hers].
Mult noroc mai departe.
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